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When Toddlers Hit...

Toddlers hit sometimes.  They are expressing frustration.  They may have seen other people hit each other and so they think that is what people do when they are upset.  They may simply have no other tools to express themselves.  When toddlers hit, it is a teachable moment.  It is our opportunity to teach about kindness, respect for others and personal space boundaries.  Adults need to be intentional in their reactions to children hitting.   Remain calm and concentrate on what you must teach your child.  It is embarrassing when your child is the one hitting the other children at a playdate or a birthday party.   Adults worry that no one will want to invite their child again.  We worry about the wrong thing.  Popularity shouldn’t be our primary concern.  Addressing the behavior and teaching our child should be the goal.  No child is perfect.  No parent is perfect.  Yours might be in the spotlight right now but in five minutes, another child will be crying or grabbing or running under th…

How Many Times Do I Have To Say It?

“Put the toy away.” “Walk in the hallway.” “Don’t slam the door.” “Garbage goes in the garbage can.” “Our hands are not for hitting.  Hitting hurts.”
How many times do I have to say it?  Many, many, sometimes hundreds of times.   Say it simply and kindly….and say it over and over again.
Young children are egocentric.  They see the world from only their point of view.  They will remember what they care about though, when you think about it, that’s true of all of us.  I can attend the same wedding as my husband and come home with different memories of the event.  Some things mattered to me and others mattered to my husband.  Thus, we have two different sets of memories from the same 5 hour span.  Children do not care about walking when they are in a rush to get somewhere.  They do not care about picking up their toys.  They hit to express frustration, and because it is their only way to communicate it.  We are here to teach them about appropriateness in different settings and about bei…